‘Terrified’: Ex-cop jailed and deported during holiday to US

*This is reported by News.com.au

A former NSW police officer has described the terrifying ordeal she faced after she was detained, jailed overnight and deported from the United States – despite travelling there legally on a tourist visa to visit her US military husband.

Nikki Saroukos from south-west Sydney says she was “treated like a criminal”, denied her rights and subjected to invasive searches, humiliating treatment and a night in federal prison – simply for trying to spend time with her American partner stationed in Hawaii.

Now back in Australia and still reeling from the trauma, Mrs Saroukos and her mother are demanding answers – and warning others how easily international travel can turn into a nightmare.

Mrs Saroukos has visited Hawaii three times in recent months under the ESTA visa waiver program to see her husband, a US Army lieutenant she married in December 2024 after a whirlwind long-distance romance. The couple met through a dating app and quickly knew they wanted to be together.

A former NSW police officer has described the terrifying ordeal she faced after she was detained, jailed overnight and deported from the United States – despite travelling there legally on a tourist visa to visit her US military husband.

Nikki Saroukos from south-west Sydney says she was “treated like a criminal”, denied her rights and subjected to invasive searches, humiliating treatment and a night in federal prison – simply for trying to spend time with her American partner stationed in Hawaii.

Now back in Australia and still reeling from the trauma, Mrs Saroukos and her mother are demanding answers – and warning others how easily international travel can turn into a nightmare.

Mrs Saroukos has visited Hawaii three times in recent months under the ESTA visa waiver program to see her husband, a US Army lieutenant she married in December 2024 after a whirlwind long-distance romance. The couple met through a dating app and quickly knew they wanted to be together.

Mrs Saroukos and her mother (pictured left) were expecting a three week holiday to Honolulu. Picture: Supplied

Mrs Saroukos and her mother (pictured left) were expecting a three week holiday to Honolulu. Picture: Supplied

He joined the army in 2022 and has been serving as a US Army lieutenant on the Pacific island and US state since August 2023.

“He’s serving their country,” Mrs Saroukos told news.com.au in an emotional interview.

“We sacrificed so much to make this work. To be mocked and detained like that – it’s appalling.”

Mrs Saroukos and her mother arrived to Daniel K Inouye International Airport in Honolulu last Sunday for what was supposed to be a routine three-week holiday when things took a sharp and unexpected turn at the customs desk.

“The officer began to look troubled at his computer to which my mum offered to provide more information,” she explained.

“From there he screamed – ‘Shut up and get to the back of the line, go now’ – at the top of his lungs.

“My fight or flight immediately kicked in. I’d seen horror stories about this stuff. I just bawled on the spot,” Mrs Saroukos recalled.

“We were in such a vulnerable position. We didn’t know their rules well and he was obviously carrying a gun.”

Mrs Saroukos, who lives with with anxiety and PTSD, and her mother were then taken to a holding area for questioning where she offered contact with her husband and to show her marriage certificate – to which they laughed in her face.

She said the pair were told, “Don’t say anything, don’t talk and don’t touch your phones,” by officers before their bags were tossed out and inspected along with their documents.

“I didn’t hide anything,” she said.

Her mother was free to go after the search but Mrs Saroukos was taken to a second location where she was subjected to further interrogation.

There, she was forced to surrender her phone and passwords, and questioned about her work as a former police officer.

“They questioned me about the demographic of my suburb and what crimes I was exposed to as a police officer,” she said.

“They were asking me about ice and meth and whether I knew how much was being imported from New Zealand.”

She said she had “now idea how to answere the questions.

“I was just dumbfounded,” she said.

“They took a 45-minute sworn statement where they grilled me on my stream of income, my marriage, my phone history.

“They were clutching at straws. They even asked why I had deleted Instagram three days prior, I was completely honest.”

After the statement concluded she was told to wait outside where she was then subjected to a DNA swab – which she was given no explanation for.

She was further forced to sign a document declaring she was not a part of a cartel and had no affiliation with gang members.

She also signed a document stating her husband was her next of kin and that he would be contacted and informed of her whereabouts – something she later learnt never happened.

After hours of questioning and a sworn statement, a supervisor informed her that her statement was deemed inadmissible and that she would not be entering the United States.

“I’ve never been so terrified in my life. I froze. They said ‘We’ll be sending you to jail.’ I was just shaking, sweating – I couldn’t believe it,” she said.

Mrs Saroukos said she was handcuffed, subjected to an in-depth cavity search and marched through the airport in full view of the public before being placed into a car and driven 10 minutes to a federal detention facility.

“The officers told me I wasn’t under arrest but I was cuffed and searched. My jewellery was taken and not secured. I felt stripped of all my dignity,” she said.

“I told the officer that from my understanding when you place someone in cuffs it’s an indication of arrest and you need to read them their rights.”

To which an officer replied, “It’s for our safety.”

When she asked a female officer whether she’d be safe inside the prison they told her, “I can’t answer that, I’ve never been there. I can assume you’d be safe to a degree.”

Upon arriving at the prison around 3.30pm, she was fingerprinted again, ordered to strip naked, squat and cough, and handed prison issued briefs and green outerwear.

“When they finished with the search there was a male officer standing outside who looked confused. He asked me why I was here to which I told him what had happened,” she said.

“He told me, ‘Wow. You should not be here right now, you have Trump to thank for that though.’”

When she asked if she would be fed, officers told her she had missed the cut off for dinner time and would not be provided any food today.

She was further forced to sign a waiver where she agreed she would not be making or receiving any phone calls – something her lawyer later informed her was against basic human rights.

Officers also told her that if she needed to take a shower she would not be provided with a towel and was to use a wet paper towel to clean herself.

“The entire time I was just thinking, ‘Shut up and do what they say and you’ll get out of here,’” she said.

Mrs Saroukos says she was taken to a shared cell where her roommate was a Fijian woman who was being held over similar circumstances.

“There were prisoners everywhere. I learned that I was being housed with convicted murderers,” she said.

“(Other inmates) told me I looked like a fish out of water and even gave me soap and a towel.

“As a former police officer it was such an irony to be on the other side of things. Those inmates treated me better than anyone else.”

Mrs Saroukos’ husband and mother had been waiting outside the airport for five hours with no information on her whereabouts.

“A Hawaiin Airlines ground manager told them that their ‘best guess is that she is there’ (the detention centre). That was all they had to go off,” she said.

Mrs Saroukos recalls that at 6am after only receiving an hour of sleep, she was woken by prison guards bashing on the metal cell doors.

“I just kept thinking that someone has to come save me and that this surely wasn’t really happening,” she said.

She was then told by officers that she would be leaving in ten minutes and was to clean her cell and discard any rubbish.

She was changed back into her own clothing before being transported back to the airport, again in handcuffs.

There, she was marched through crowds of people by officers before being taken to another holding room where she was finally given a small bottle of water, a muesli bar and a packet of chips.

“It was just so humiliating and embarrassing,” she said.

She was then informed she had a call from the Australian Embassy who had been closed over the weekend during the ordeal.

“They told me they couldn’t do anything and that no one had the power to help,” she said.

She asked the embassy to call her mother and let her know that she was being put on a 12.15pm flight back to Sydney.

“I couldn’t fly by myself, I was terrified.”

She was then finally allowed a three-minute phone call with her husband who was “inconsolable”.

“He was crying so much. When I asked if he had known where I was he told me ‘nobody told us anything’,” she said.

Mrs Saroukos was then escorted to the gate by two officers – one in front and one behind – who then handed her phone and passport to flight attendants.

Once in the air, she requested her phone to which a flight attendant said “You will get it given back when touch down and it will be handed over to Australian authorities.”

Upon landing in Australia, Mrs Saroukos was forced to stay on the plane where she expressed her concerns to an empathetic air hostess.

“She told me didn’t agree with what was happening.”

Once being free to de-board the plane, an Australia Customers Officer was waiting for her where he handed her an envelope with her belongings.

“He told me I was free to leave which I couldn’t believe,” she said.

Mrs Saroukos’ husband is planning to apply for an honourable discharge from the US Army as a result so that he can live and work in Australia.

“We don’t know yet what he’ll do here. We’re just too shaken up to even think about it,” she said.

“I never want to return to the United States.”

Mrs Saroukos and her family have now hired an immigration lawyer in the US to probe what can be done about her ordeal.

US Customs and Border Protection did not comment when contacted by news.com.au.

Best Places for LGBTQ People to Retire Abroad

*This is reported by Kiplinger.

An irrefutable reality of being a member of the LGBTQ community, at any age, is that you must give more thought than non-LGBTQ people about where to live. What are the local laws that apply to LGBTQ people regarding workplace and housing discrimination, marriage equality and conversion therapy? What does available public polling reveal about acceptance of the LGBTQ community? Even if you’re not married and don’t plan to be, or even if you no longer work, such laws — or the absence of them — suggest to LGBTQ folks how safe and welcoming the locale will be for them.

The above is true whether you’re LGBTQ and 30 — or a gay retiree. You can’t just spin the globe. If you’re LGBTQ and are considering retiring abroad, it is incumbent on you to do more due diligence than your straight friends and family members would have to do in the same situation.

Best places for LGBTQ people to retire abroad

If you enlist the services of a lawyer who specializes in retirement abroad, you have to ask more questions; you have to spend more late nights googling; and you have to read more articles like this one, in which we examine the knotty issues related to gay retirement outside the U.S., include advice from both experts and expats, and make some (hopefully helpful) recommendations.

If everything falls into place, you can breathe a sigh of relief once you’re in the midst of your retirement abroad. Chris Young and Jon Kinnally, who both worked in the television industry — Young was a writer for Comedy Central, and Kinnally was a writer and producer for the sitcoms Will & Grace and Ugly Betty — lived most recently in Los Angeles before the couple moved to Spain. They chose Sitges, a vibrant, walkable beach town about 45 minutes from Barcelona. “It’s so open. You see gay and lesbian couples holding hands. And you can be old and gay here, which you can’t be in L.A.,” Young says, not entirely joking.

Below, we recommend some beautiful and culturally rich countries where LGBTQ folks can retire happily and safely. But just as the U.S. isn’t uniform in terms of acceptance, neither are most countries. The LGBTQ community scarcely needs to be told that the more populous and diverse the area — in the U.S., that means urban or coastal, or both — the more accepting the area tends to be.

But it’s worth repeating. As the founder and managing director of Mitos Relocation Solutions, Federica Grazi helps expats retire in Greece and other European countries, and she is quick to note that not all of Greece is like the gay magnets of Athens and Mykonos. “I would not recommend that gay couples move to the countryside, where there are traditional communities and not many expats — it would be harder to integrate there,” she counsels, but the same might be said of France, Spain, Italy — or the U.S.

With that in mind, here’s our hot list of retirement places.

Spain

Spain is well-known as one of the most LGBTQ-friendly countries in the world. Spain legalized same-sex marriage in 2005, a full decade before the U.S. Naturally, this factored into Young’s and Kinnally’s decision to move to Sitges, a global destination for gay tourism.

The two appreciate the fact that the resort town, while heavily gay — with a spate of gay bars, nightclubs, and hotels — is demographically diverse. “It’s not a gay ghetto,” Young says. “Sitges is a great mix,” Kinnally adds. “It’s different than a place like Provincetown. There are kids running through the streets, old Spanish ladies, and gay couples — all mixing together. It’s kind of a utopia if you want to retire.”

With health care costing the couple only 250 euros a month and three-course lunches priced from 15 to 17 euros, they can breathe easy about expenses and work on their respective book projects. (Kinnally’s I’m Prancing as Fast as I Can comes out in August.) Of the major cities, Barcelona is a gay mecca, and Madrid boasts Chueca, a festive gay neighborhood.

Greece

While same-sex marriage was only recently legalized in 2024, same-sex sexual activity was decriminalized in Greece in 1951, which compares favorably to the U.S., which granted this right far later — in 2003. Likewise, employment discrimination against gays and lesbians has been illegal in Greece since 2005 (with gender-identity protections following later), while the U.S. did not grant this protection at the federal level until 2020.

Athens boasts a large and thriving LGBTQ community, especially in the Gazi neighborhood, and the Cycladic island of Mykonos is arguably the world’s most popular summer destination for the LGBTQ community, with famous gay beaches like Elia and Super Paradise.

Former New Yorker Daniel Rentillo says that even the small, low-key island of Symi, where he retired, is a comfortable place to be LGBTQ, and he’s noticed more gay couples visiting and even making moves to relocate to the island. The fact that Greece enjoys excellent health care and a relatively low cost of living makes this country of cultural antiquities, plentiful beaches, mild weather, and fresh seafood a fine choice for retirees — LGBTQ or not.

Malta

Not only was employment discrimination against the LGBTQ community banned here, and same-sex sexual activity decriminalized years before the U.S. made these civil rights moves, but the island nation of Malta was also the first European country to ban conversion therapy. Supermajorities of Maltese support civil rights and marriage equality.

With a tiny population of half a million people living on three sunny, inhabited islands (Malta, Gozo, and Camino), the country is located south of Sicily, enjoying a similar Mediterranean climate and stunningly clear waters to swim in, especially at the natural coves at St. Peter’s Pool.

Valetta is the pedestrian-friendly capital and is the best place for gays to hole up, along with nearby Sliema. “Everyone accepts the LGBTQ community today,” says Matthew Cassar, a citizenship advocate and lawyer based in Sliema. “No one would conceive of discrimination,” noting that “there is no opposition party” set on scaling back the community’s rights. One of Cassar’s clients, worried for his transgender daughter’s rights and safety in the U.S. under the Trump administration, is in the middle of the citizenship process.

The country has two official languages: Maltese and English.

Australia

For more than a decade, public polling has shown support for gay rights and marriage quality surpassing the 70% mark. And some advances have been swift and recent: Since 2021, the country has outlawed the so-called gay panic defense, legalized marriage equality, and banned conversion therapy (in regions representing 85% of the population). In 2013, Australia implemented federal protections based on sexual orientation, gender identity, and intersex status.

Though marriage equality did not arrive in Australia until 2018, the capital of Sydney has embraced gay culture for decades: The annual Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras, one of the world’s biggest LGBTQ celebrations, has been going strong since the 1970s. While Sydney, Adelaide and Brisbane have gay neighborhoods, the LGBTQ presence in Melbourne is more spread out.

Most retirees will find a pathway to relocate through the expensive ($500,000 to $750,000) Investor Retirement Visa. Still, it is cheaper to live in Sydney than in New York or San Francisco.

For those seeking a mild climate, beautiful cities, a friendly populace, excellent health care, and zero language barrier, “Oz” (the affectionate slang for Australia) may be the ticket.

Costa Rica

Costa Rica’s former president, Carlos Alvarado Quesada, was a notable reformer and advocate in the area of LGBTQ rights, garnering global attention when he publicly apologized for the country’s past persecution and discrimination of gays, calling it “shameful.” Same-sex marriage became legal in 2020, which was also the year that hate crimes and blackmail based on sexual orientation were criminalized. (Transgender rights already had been significantly expanded in 2018.)

A center of eco-tourism and sustainable well-being with no standing army, tropical Costa Rica has long been regarded as a kind of peaceable utopia for expats. With the Caribbean Sea on one side and the Pacific on the other, Costa Rica is known for its lush landscape and hot springs.

Costa Rica’s healthcare system frequently ranks as one of the best globally. The country’s high-quality healthcare has made it a health tourism destination.

Gay life is centered in the capital city of San Jose and the carefree beach resort town of Manuel Antonio. Retirees will find the country very affordable, even with household help.

The Netherlands

The first country in the world to legalize same-sex marriage (in 2001) also banned discrimination based on gender identity, gender expression, and sex characteristics in 2019. Not only do most Dutch people support LGBTQ rights; many Dutch, especially those under 40, can’t even comprehend the discrimination faced by the community in other countries.

It would be an understatement to say that you can be comfortably gay in Amsterdam, with Reguliersdwarsstraat the most prominent LGBTQ area. This world-class city is postcard-perfect, teeming with cyclists, and is pedestrian-friendly (just mind the bike lanes). The visa system is straightforward and leads to residency. English is widely spoken, and the cultural opportunities seem endless.

On the downside, the country’s cost of living can feel a little pricey for those living outside major U.S. cities, and the weather in the Netherlands is rainier and chillier than in southern Europe.

Thailand

In 2024, Thailand made headlines when it became the first UN member state to approve a marriage equality law, and the country, with its myriad cultural and recreation opportunities, has long been popular with LGBTQ tourists. Therefore, LGBTQ couples and individuals may want to consider Thailand, but only if they’re of a certain stripe: adventurous and very well-traveled; tolerant of tropical heat; and veterans of previous vacations or work stints in the country.

In an exotic culture so far from friends and loved ones, it’s best to have an expat community already in place if you’re thinking of moving there. In addition, though Thailand offers the LGBTQ community a range of protections and anti-discrimination laws, local attitudes are still evolving, and social interactions should be carefully navigated (cue the established expat scene).

That said, this is a very inexpensive country with kind people. And if you love Thai food, having pad see ew where it was invented will be a revelation. The capital, Bangkok, is a uniquely stimulating place, where a ride on long-tailed boat along the Chao Phraya River may get you to your destination faster than an open tuk-tuk (taxi), given the city’s notoriously heavy traffic.

If you prefer a slower pace and a coastal setting, you can always base yourself in the resort areas of Phuket or Ko Samui, the latter the island where season 3 of The White Lotus was filmed.

20 Most Visited Countries by Digital Nomads in 2023

This blog originally appeared at MAPPR.

The ascent of digital nomadism in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic has been nothing short of remarkable. A growing number of individuals worldwide now have the flexibility to work remotely and explore the globe, and certain destinations are particularly well-suited for this lifestyle.

In this article, we’ll delve into the 20 countries that have become top destinations for digital nomads in 2023, based on findings from a recent survey. These countries are frequently chosen for their cultural and geographical appeal, pleasant climates, and the presence of conveniences that support remote work, such as high-speed internet connectivity and coworking facilities.

Initially, let’s examine the countries of origin for the majority of digital nomads, as depicted in the table below. Subsequently, we’ll explore the most frequented countries and cities by digital nomads in 2023.

Where are digital nomads from?

The Most Visited Countries by Digital Nomads

20. Poland


Poland boasts medieval architecture, a multifaceted history, delectable dishes such as kielbasa and pierogies, and the distinction of hosting the world’s largest castle. When coupled with its relatively affordable cost of living compared to other European countries, it’s no surprise that Poland ranks among the top destinations for digital nomads.

Best Digital Nomad Cities in Poland

Warsaw

As the capital and largest city of Poland, Warsaw stands out as a prime destination for digital nomads in the country. Many digital nomads highlight its advantages, including safety, walkability, and high-speed internet access.

Krakow

Krakow, Poland’s second-largest city and one of its oldest, is another popular destination among digital nomads. While the city may not be the most female or LGBTQ-friendly in Europe, nomads appreciate its walkability, relative safety, and abundance of coworking spaces.

19. Turkey

Turkey’s geographical location, bridging the continents of Europe and Asia, adds to its unique and attractive appeal for various types of travelers. This multifaceted country is part of both the Black Sea and Mediterranean regions and boasts a rich history shaped by numerous civilizations and empires.

Best Digital Nomad Cities in Turkey

Istanbul

Formerly known as Constantinople, Istanbul occupies a unique position astride the Bosphorus Strait, serving as a bridge between Europe and Asia. This city stands apart from any other in the world, offering a plethora of activities such as sunset cruises along the Bosphorus, visits to iconic landmarks like the Hagia Sophia, and tantalizing Turkish food tours that provide endless opportunities for exploration and enjoyment.

Antalya

For digital nomads seeking a sun-soaked coastal escape with less urban hustle and bustle, Antalya in Turkey is a top contender. What makes this city particularly enticing are its vibrant atmosphere, proximity to beautiful beaches, and welcoming attitude towards foreigners.

18. Colombia

Colombia, the first South American country on this list, offers a harmonious fusion of natural splendor, vibrant culture, and bustling urban centers. It boasts the title of one of the world’s most biodiverse nations, is the birthplace of cumbia music and dance, and houses thriving tech hubs like Medellín.

Best Digital Nomad Cities in Colombia

Medellín

Medellín, a city in Colombia, enjoys a well-deserved reputation among digital nomads as a must-visit destination in South America. Dubbed the “City of Eternal Spring” due to its consistently delightful weather, it offers an enticing blend of affordable living costs and numerous work-friendly spaces, making it a top choice for digital nomads.

Bogotá

Bogotá, the capital of Colombia, sits at an impressive elevation of 2,640 meters (8,660 ft) above sea level. Renowned for its historical importance, vibrant arts and culinary scenes, and budget-friendly cost of living, it remains a cherished destination for digital nomads in Colombia.

17. Australia

Certainly, Australia might have its share of perilous wildlife, but it’s equally famous for its endearing kangaroos, koalas, and wombats. This Oceania nation holds the 17th spot among countries frequented by digital nomads in 2023. Let’s explore the top cities to visit in Australia.

Best Digital Nomad Cities in Australia

Melbourne

Melbourne, a sprawling metropolis situated in the Australian state of Victoria, boasts a reputation for its temperate climate, vibrant culinary landscape, and its role as host to numerous sporting events. Digital nomads are drawn to Melbourne for its safety, lively nightlife, and abundant workspaces.

Sydney

The Sydney Opera House, an iconic architectural masterpiece, is globally renowned, and the city’s pristine beaches are a major draw. Sydney appeals to digital nomads with its pleasant climate, widespread availability of free Wi-Fi, and its LGBTQ-friendly atmosphere.

16. Vietnam

Vietnam, one of the world’s ancient nations, is highly favored by digital nomads. This Southeast Asian country boasts an incredibly affordable cost of living, stunning jungle and coastal scenery, and one of the most adored cuisines worldwide.

Best Digital Nomad Cities in Vietnam

Da Nang

Da Nang, situated along Vietnam’s South Central Coast and renowned for its extensive sandy beaches and close proximity to the tourist hub of Hoi An, is a city highly favored by digital nomads. Its appeal lies in its safety, affordable cost of living, and welcoming atmosphere for foreigners.

Phu Quoc

Phu Quoc, an island situated near the southern tip of Vietnam renowned for its fish sauce, is also an exquisite tropical destination with an affordable cost of living. Despite not offering the best internet connectivity or a plethora of workspaces, digital nomads find this location highly enjoyable.

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